Good Omens All Around

This is an egg case, an ootheca, from a praying mantis, left as a gift to us in our front door frame. This last month or so, the female who left it has been a constant companion at our door. 

And in the flowers next to it. 

Sadly, the female mantis will die after she lays her eggs. 

Her oothaca can contain 50-200 baby mantises, and I now have the responsibility to keep them safe through winter. 

I’ve always known the praying mantis is a good sign, but the oothaca has even more symbology: divine timing, birth and rebirth, spiritual renewal, peace, and perseverance. 

I will take whatever good tidings I can get. 

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When I was at the equestrian park two days ago I met a young trainer who studied under my trainer now and is willing to put rides on horses. I watched her with the young horse she was riding and was impressed with her gentle, yet confident approach. 

We set up a time for her to ride Tweed on the trails next week, as I’m interested to get her input. I told her what he’s doing on hills and she didn’t seem fazed by it. 

If it works out, I will try to get maybe a couple more rides from her before winter hits, and then some spring rides later. Fingers crossed it works out, as she might me just the person to help us through this little blip. 

She asked me all about my goals and training—what we want accomplished and how—and is willing to support that work. My current trainer thought it was an excellent idea to help us along. 

The great thing about this is that I can have my grandson with me, since I won’t be in saddle. That frees up a lot more opportunities and the chance to get more rides on Tweed, which he needs. 

Good omens all around. 

My Golden Boy

(Tweed worked up a sweat)

This horse. He is pouring his little heart out for me. ❤️

We had a lesson at the park yesterday, but beforehand I rode him in the round pen and arena myself while my trainer was giving another lesson. 

Tweed is hesitant about standing water, so we practiced our new skill of vertical flexion (I have a job for you to do), release and allow him to extend his neck to the job, and then do the job. 

It worked. 

Soon we were trotting through the water confidently and Tweed was very willing and proud of himself. 

In the big arena I practiced a skill I’d seen a trainer on Facebook do: walk a circle so your horse knows the exact pattern (he actually used cones), then ride them on the circle on a loose rein, only correcting them if they leave the circle or to check their speed. 

Well, that didn’t go so well. Tweed was distracted with all the other horses. It was, for lack of a better word, sloppy. 

About that time my trainer walked over, finished with her other lesson, and asked me what I was doing and how it was working. I explained it to her and she said that is a good exercise, but he’s not ready for it yet. 

The homework she’d given me (and that I’d practiced throughout the week) was to ask for vertical flexion and hind end engagement, then release the contact by small degrees to the amount of contact where Tumbleweed would CONTINUE to carry himself. If he stopped carrying himself, get him back into vertical flexion and repeat. And repeat. And repeat. 

She’s right, of course. That’s the whole point of what we’re doing, getting him to use that beautiful big hind end of his in the correct way. Strengthen him. Prepare him for those big old hills. 

It’s hard, hard work, and they want to escape it (like he did on the trail rides) so he found things to get scared about—like a dust devil with pine needles swirling our way. Oh. My. Goodness! Those ears went up. He froze. I couldn’t get him forward. He wanted to run away. 

I didn’t know what to do. 

My trainer yelled at me to make him face it. I did as I was told and she went to stand between us and his perceived monster on the outside of the arena. Then she told me to push him forward and get him back to work, vertical flexion, controlled speed. 

I did that too. It worked. 

She yelled out at me, “You just recreated what happens on the hills and got through it! Good job!”

I think I’m a slow learner, because it just now really hit me how ALL these things are tied together. I probably discounted the importance of the arena work. Why? I don’t know. The trainer who started him sure doesn’t discount that work. Nor does my current personal trainer. 

Anyway, we kept progressing to harder and harder work at the lope and that little horse of mine was trying so hard for me as I was STRUGGLING with correct inside and outside rein and seat and legs. My trainer was like, sit back! Further! Deeper! Further! 

I felt like I was lying down in the saddle, but she assured me I was only slightly back. 

It dawns on me now that I am learning to engage my own hind end as much as Tweed is learning to engage his. And guess what? It works. When you sit your butt in that saddle like you should, they respond. 

Afterward, I walked him around and visited with some of my friends and their horses. Gave him lots of scratches and love as we rested and enjoyed what was a beautiful 60 degree 🌞 day. 

Then unsaddled and groomed him and walked him around some more. 

I didn’t want to go home. I just wanted to be there forever with my golden boy. 

Bareback on Tweed: Day One

I love to ride bareback. In my experience, it gives you a whole new level of connection with your horse. You can feel every twitch in their back, which tells you about their stress or relaxation. You can feel their heartbeat, fast or measured. And you can let your legs hang over their body and feel where your center is—and theirs. It takes away the middle man, the saddle, a physical, and even spiritual, barrier between you. It’s just a totally different level of closeness. 

Bonus: I think bareback improves saddle riding. 

Today was my first day riding Tumbleweed bareback. Well, “riding” would be an overly generous description. Let’s just say we’re starting very, very slow. 

First, we were working at home and, for Tweed, Home is where the naughty is. Fifty shades of Naughty, to be exact. 

I wouldn’t want to ride that bareback! (Or in saddle!)  The struggle was real! He was struggling with everything to do with working at home and not being with his buddies in pasture. Each buck, kick, rear, was a major middle finger to work. 

At those times you wish you could say, Chill out dude. Just do a little bit of work and you get your freedom back!

But no. They have to do it the hard way. Every. Time. 😆 

It is amazing how crazy they can look, then five minutes later be right in your pocket. Once he got it all out, and became a solid citizen, we did some beautiful pole work and then headed to the mounting block for his first “bareback ride.”

He came right over to the sweet spot, first ask, and up I went. (Sorry no photos). 

Some horses will scoot or bolt when they first feel a rider without a saddle. Tweed stood still, but his ears were alert and his back muscles were all twitching under me like I was some kind of huge, annoying fly on his back. 

I thought to myself, yeah, I’ll just sit here and pet on him for awhile, get my own balance, and let him get okay with me. 

After a short while, the muscles in his back relaxed and he took a deep breath, so we walked out and over the poles and then back. I slid off, jumped off, (he seemed a bit confused, but he needs to get used to me “coming off” just in case he scoots too fast and I come off unplanned). 

Back to the mounting block. Again he lined up perfect on the first ask, which is a good thing because he’s a big horse and I need all the help I can get mounting up with no stirrups. 

The second time up, there was less twitching, and I was able to move around and get a feel for him.  

He’s so different than Cowboy or Leah. My legs don’t hang as long on him. He’s a big boy.  

I did the same stuff, petting him and letting him relax, then we did a little work with vertical flexion, and I got some softness from him and more big licks and chews and a relaxed head. 

I jumped down again and called it good. 

He seemed happy with it all. I was happy it went so well for our first time. Everyone was happy. 

I plan to do this all week, adding little bit by little bit. The ultimate goal is to ride him bareback in the snow, because when it’s cold out, I need all the warmth I can get. 

A Garage Patio for Winter

 

I had a fun day with Tweed yesterday enjoying some rare mom and daughter horseback moments. Tumbleweed couldn’t believe he had a buddy with him and seemed to like watching her work and struggle more than he was. You go girl!

There was one point at which everything converged. He couldn’t see Epona and several groups of horses returned to the equestrian area. He went from concentrating on his work to struggling with his attention and then yanking and shaking his head to get out of it. 

It was an “oh crap” moment and in my mind I saw myself getting dumped. His energy was at a 7, but in those moments you don’t know if they’re going to a 10. 

I was on my own, so I had to trust what my trainer had drilled into me—meet his energy and continue to support him—he will come back to you. 

Right or wrong, (it felt right in the moment) I decided to ask for less collection and more forward movement in circles and serpentines. We moved across the arena at an extended trot that I could post. We circled barrels and rode straight, long lines—mixed it up. 

It must have been what he needed because he completely stopped worrying and we were able to get back to the program and have fun. 

So, what does that little nugget mean for the trails? How can I support him in the same way out in the big world?

This meme resonated with me.  

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We are hovering around freezing at night now which means we had to bring in the flowers we want to overwinter. 

The petunias you see here are all volunteers that came up through the bricks. 

It is the most glorious volunteer army of flowers we have ever had. I hope they come back again next year.

As for the potted plants, I read an article last week about people using their garages for patio space. We overwintered our plants in the garage last year, which kept us from parking cars in it. I figured, why not make it a patio space and enjoy the flowers all winter?

So we moved in some of the furniture and arranged the plants around a sitting space. The garage is fully insulated and we keep it warm in the winter. The only issue is sunlight, but we ordered an overhead system of grow lights to add to the floor grow lights we already have. I hope it works.

Building Strength through the Struggle

Struggle: to try very hard to do, achieve, or deal with something that is very difficult.

I had the privilege of enjoying a beautiful fall day with Tumbleweed today. First, by myself. Then, joining up with my trainer. 

Because of our travels, it had been a whole week off for Mr. Tweed, but you wouldn’t have known it.  

Which brings up a point we discussed during the lesson about time and consistency. My trainer said everyone has difficulty finding the time, but in her experience, if you get their best effort when you do work together, the next time should build on that. In other words, quality is more important than quantity. 

She also doesn’t interpret anything Tweed’s doing as disrespect. She sees it more as energy that needs to be directed or redirected. That energy can be nervous energy, when he’s unsure about using his body. It can also be environmental—new sights, sounds, smells. 

She said these are his “struggles,” a word she prefers to use, rather than evasions or disrespect or whatever other word we often hear but implies something negative or sinister.

She says that when he does get anxious, and struggles, I have to meet his energy and slightly exceed it. If he goes to a 5, I have to go to a 5.2, not a 10 and not a 1. She calls this “supporting him.”

Regarding the hills, she said the reason he does better on the shorter ones is because he is able to get through them faster before that energy builds up. On the longer ones, like last Thursday, he built up his energy / anxiety, I tried to slow him, and then the energy was redirected into headshaking. She says the energy has to go somewhere and it’s our job to direct it or, in that case, redirect it, by turning him back up or riding it out.

For now, she gave me some exercises to do during the winter to get him engaging his hind end and reaching or extending in front with various degrees of collection, as needed. I start him out in vertical flexion, then slowly release a little back to him, just enough for him to continue in vertical flexion on his own. If he drops it, which he often does, I pick it back up and start again.

When we get that going well in all gaits, we move to riding to new objects (for example, a barrel with flowers on it or anything else new) gathering him into flexion about 3 horse lengths before the object (a signal that something is coming up that I want him to pay attention to) then walking him slowly to the object and asking him to acknowledge it by stretching into it and dropping his nose. 

After he’s doing that well, the last exercise is walking and trotting circles in collection but asking him to move his shoulder over to the right or left just one hoof length from where we’re tracking. And when he’s doing it consistently to ask him to move into the circle in a smaller circle (maybe a 10’ circle) same gait, hind end engaged, and moving his shoulders over, rather than dropping them.

It was hard work for Tumbleweed today, but his evasions or “no’s” or, ahem, attempt to redirect the conversation and expectations, were only trying to slow down, stop, or get too fast. It was all easy to ride and redirect.

These will be the things we continue to do to strengthen his body and my ability to communicate and direct him, but she also encouraged me to keep riding the trails and give him that exposure piece, even if it means walking him down some of those steep hills. 

She also encouraged me to look at everything he can do, his successes and how far we have come. 

When she put it like that it seemed obvious how comfortable we have become as a riding team and how much effort Tumbleweed has really given me—a ton of effort. It is up to me to help him through his “struggles,” when they arise, and be the kind of team leader that navigates him towards success.

Come to think about it, life is about the struggles for all of us. We become stronger, smarter, braver, by working through them.