Tuesday, January 27, 2026

Katie Day


Today was the day Katie came by, and I had told her not to expect much except groundwork, considering the energy Tumbleweed had the last few sessions. But that wasn’t the case today. 

When I went to get him he was just so mellow and fully connected, a totally different horse. We had twenty minutes to do some basic stuff before Katie arrived, and he was gentle as a kitten.  At liberty, he wouldn’t leave my side. On the lead, he was fully tuned in and respectful. 


Wild Dan came out to see us and entertained Tweed for a bit. 


Then Grady came out, too. 


We did light work over poles and coming to the mounting block. 

Then Katie arrived and I updated her. Yeah, you’re going to be riding today. He’s all there for you. 

She got to it. 








She was very happy with him and says we’re about 80-90% where he left off. 

When she was done with him, I got Epona. 






Epona hadn’t been worked with, so she had some stuff. She was about Tweed on Day 2, a little looky, running, bucking, and wanting to roll. Not bad, but she didn’t get a ride in. It was all groundwork, which made me happy I’d already done it with Tweed.


He watched Epona the entire time she was gone. 

I love this plan. We’re going to meet once a week for now, and it will really help me get him started right. If there are any holes or I reach a mental road block, Katie will help us past it. 

We are going to be so ready for spring!


Monday, January 26, 2026

Winter Horse Crazies

 

Third day working with Tumbleweed, and he still has a lot of pent up energy, so no rides. He has a case of the bucks, kicks, rolls, and spooks. 

All I’m really asking for right now is connection, and he gives that to me well when he’s near me. His emotions get bigger when I push him away and ask him to work on the long line. He picks up the trot on his own, and I try to get him back to the walk, then I have him face up and rest when he listens. 

Since it’s winter, he hasn’t had much turnout, and he has energy he needs to release.

To help him get that energy out safely, I’m going to start putting him in the arena with some buddy horses everyday. The sand is just too tempting for a horse who wants (and needs) to get the crazies out. 

I’m still waiting to get with Katie, but I’d like to have him quieter before she comes. We’re expecting a temperature climb next week, and that will probably be the best time to really work him. Right now, it’s in the teens at night and just above freezing during the day, so I hesitate to get him all sweaty where he needs a really long cool down period, and that’s what it’s going to take.

Update: Katie is coming tomorrow.

How about you all? Hunkering down, or trying to work your horses in winter?





Sunday, January 25, 2026

Expect the Best, Be Prepared For the Worst

 

I made a mistake yesterday, but I don’t hold it against myself. After all, it is better to do something than nothing. Something, at least, gives you information. 

I went out expecting the best, and unprepared for the worst. That’s on me. 

I brought with us a bridle, a bareback pad, and lunge line. That’s it. And everything was fine, until we got to the scary side of the arena, the one I assume is scariest for every horse everywhere, because it’s opposite the main gate and furthest from the herd and barn. 

At that point, Tweed was sure he saw an imaginary cow with a plastic bag in its mouth running toward us. The one we saw two years ago, but now is only a memory. No cows. No bags. Just ghosts of the past. 

But that was enough that he was wanting to run, buck, pull back, cut in, kick, and roll. And all I had was the tail end of my lunge rope, my body language, energy, and resolve. All of which was enough to turn it around, but not at all what would have been best in that situation. (Word to the wise, NEVER wrap the rope around your hand. I didn’t, and never do, but that first pull back would have taken my hand off if I had. I was thanking the gods of good training LAWS, which are a step above mere rules.)

Anyway, I worked him until he could do walk and trot transitions with no drama. And that was it. No bareback riding. All that tack went back, tail between its legs, to the tack room. 

Fast Forward to today after I thought it through and came up with the title of this blog. All the good energy and intentions in the world are sometimes not enough for what you encounter, and certainly no substitute for time and training. It all goes hand-in-hand as much as heart-to-heart.

Tweed has been off for a couple months, as Katie got sick and couldn’t make it to our appointment, and he was feeling independent of me, a little herd bound, and excited to be in a big sand box where he wanted to LET LOOSE. 

But today I was prepared, flag in hand, and a woman with a plan: work him where he is comfortable, and rest him where’s he not. 

It made a big difference. He still had lots of energy, but I was able to more safely direct it over poles. He did try to roll again, but I got after him with the flag. He jumped up, pulled back, and I just told him to move right on along. When he realized he was outmatched, his respect re-emerged, along with his manners. 

I will say, when I visualize what I’m asking for first, say the walk to trot, it goes smoother…when we’re tuned into each other. 

When we were done, I took him into the round pen and released him for that long awaited roll in the sand.

Then I took him back to the barn where I’m going to rest him awhile. He looked a little off on his right front. 

Above his stall, Wild Thing Dan was walking the edge of the stall fronts. (Don’t jump down and scare my boy!!)

All is well that ends well, ..for the prepared. Tumbleweed will be much more ready by the time Katie does arrive. At least we will have dealt with the false-spring zoomies and ghosts of past curious cows. 

Saturday, January 24, 2026

The Year of Our Staycation


Have I told you that my husband and I decided not to travel this winter? 


A mere three years ago, we had a family meeting where we announced we’d be splitting our time between the north and south, actively looking for a place in Arizona to spend winters with our horses. Then, life changed and our family’s needs changed, and it became clear there would be no leaving. Not now, and not ever. 


There was a bit of a relief in that because we actually love our home, and we even love it in winter. 


So, this year, we took it a step further and decided not to even travel away for that little bit of warmth and sunshine. 


And again, there is some relief in it. We can give our uninterrupted focus to the home we so love. 


It has also been a mild winter, which has allowed us to hike and explore. 

I’m still on that soup kick! Last night I made homemade pasta (egg noodles). 








Our grandson helped and we had so much fun together! We turned half the batch of noodles into beef stroganoff soup. Yum. And the other half, cut to fettuccine size, will be for a fresh herb and lemon pasta tonight. 

I also tried a new recipe for Hungarian Mushroom Soup this week. 


You’d think we’d be getting tired of soup, but there’s so much variety in flavors, they all seem new. 

The tradition of cooking with kids is a long one in my family. My mom did it with me, I did it with mine, and now the grandson is at our side chopping and mixing. 

When you’re surrounded by people and animals you love, there is, truly, no place like home and everyday is a vacation.  

Friday, January 23, 2026

Heart-to-Heart Connection With Horses

Horses have a remarkable ability to heal us with their heart energy. This may be why they make such good “therapists”. We often hear stories of how a horse helped someone through a difficult time. This happened because there was a true heart-to-heart connection between the horse and human. (Sacred Spaces)

Since Aurora just finished Chapter 2 of Sacred Spaces: Getting On the Same Wave Length, I decided to reread it and take notes in my journal. 

It is the most scientific chapter, and it covers “heart coherence” and brain waves (we strive for Beta 1 and Alpha: relaxed mind, gentle thinking, receptive, enhanced focus and learning). 

The quote above stood out to me and took me back to my journey with Cowboy, who I had such a deep heart-to-heart connection with. 

I’ve been wondering how that happened, since he was not an emotionally coherent horse to begin with and I was going through the most difficult, chaotic time of my life. How did the two of us basket cases ever come together? 

I can only guess that we bonded in our brokenness. I somehow perceived the hurt and insecurity in him, and him in me, and it developed some level of mutual empathy, understanding, and desire to be together as much as possible. 

If I wasn’t with him, I was daydreaming about him. I’d get away whenever I could to ride him off alone or just be in his presence. My mind was all COWBOY, COWBOY, COWBOY. It rewired itself for him. The channels still cut deep, from the thought of him straight to my heart. I’ll take that connection to my grave, and hopefully he will be there on the other side of this life in some spiritual realm. 

In a nutshell, I was desperate for that connection. Absolutely desperate, and I was like a heat seeking missile to attain it. 

I am not that desperate now. My life has entered a whole new phase, and I am a different horsewoman with a different horse. Tumbleweed isn’t as needy, and neither am I. 

So, this is new territory for me in many ways and I’m finding my way through it in a new way. 


I’m reading another book now, Horses, Humans and Love, by Tim Hayes, and so far I’m finding the same theme—connection through attention. Getting out of your head, unplugged from the world, and throwing yourself wholeheartedly into the horse / human relationship at hand. We all know that this relationship is valuable, even essential, and because of that, we do whatever it takes to develop a heart-to-heart connection. 

My horses make me happier and stronger, and many of my most purely joyful moments have been with them. They help me get my heart right, and that affects every other facet of my life. That happens to be the theme of this new book, and I am really enjoying it so far.